My girlfriend does not want to get married
Stephen writes, "My girlfriend just broke up with me. We had been going out for three years and I was certain that she was the one (I even started looking for engagement rings). We were going to move to California, where she was going to go to graduate school. All of a sudden, she freaks out and says that she wants to take a break to see what else is out there, and to "live a little" because she felt that we were "losing our identities." She says she still loves me but that she needs space and that we will see what happens (one of those "if it's meant to be..."). I have a false hope that she will get back with me after she realizes her mistake, but i can't deal with this overwhelming sadness and the urge to be an obsessive ex. Please help! I love her so much but this is killing me."
What can you do when you girlfriend does not want to get married?
It is often the case that when the moment of truth comes many women and men freak out. Marriage is a big commitment and it can scare both men and women. That is what is happening to her.
Another possibility is that she was never convinced that you were the man for life for her. She stayed with you till she was able to confirm that feeling or that she really did not have an option or that she was waiting for an opportunity to breakup or was just too timid to say what she really felt. She thinks that by committing to something more than just dating, she might not be able to have fun and may have to get married when she really does not want and that too with a man she is not so sure of.
Not fair to you by any means but definitely not unusual, especially among younger people.
The right thing for you to do is to move on. Trust me if you are a nice guy (appears that you are), many girls will love to have you as a husband and you should have no trouble finding that lucky girl. If this ex of yours does not appreciate what you have in mind for her and your life together, she is the unlucky one and not to be pursued by you against her will.
My personal recommendation is to let her move on too and you shouldn't even send her a card during the holidays. Just retain the sweet memories of the relationship but start dating again. I am hopeful that in no time you might find that for great guys there are always lots of great girls.
What can you do when you girlfriend does not want to get married?
It is often the case that when the moment of truth comes many women and men freak out. Marriage is a big commitment and it can scare both men and women. That is what is happening to her.
Another possibility is that she was never convinced that you were the man for life for her. She stayed with you till she was able to confirm that feeling or that she really did not have an option or that she was waiting for an opportunity to breakup or was just too timid to say what she really felt. She thinks that by committing to something more than just dating, she might not be able to have fun and may have to get married when she really does not want and that too with a man she is not so sure of.
Not fair to you by any means but definitely not unusual, especially among younger people.
The right thing for you to do is to move on. Trust me if you are a nice guy (appears that you are), many girls will love to have you as a husband and you should have no trouble finding that lucky girl. If this ex of yours does not appreciate what you have in mind for her and your life together, she is the unlucky one and not to be pursued by you against her will.
My personal recommendation is to let her move on too and you shouldn't even send her a card during the holidays. Just retain the sweet memories of the relationship but start dating again. I am hopeful that in no time you might find that for great guys there are always lots of great girls.
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