Fashionable at any age: Charm your husband
So you have kids, you have been married for many years, you put on some weight! Result: your husband does not even look at you. He is not cheating but he doesn't bother even touching you.
What is wrong? Several things, acutally. You have started to take him for granted. You have not only stopped caring for him, you have stopped caring for yourself. So stop heading towards a divorce. Do something now. It is not as difficult as it might seem.
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