Long-distance relationships: How to manage them?

Andrew in San Antonio, Texas, writes, "I am a Latino man from Ecuador.  My girlfriend Yuki is an amazing and wonderful woman, and I love her dearly.  I have never been in love before, not like this, and I would say that I was a bit of a bad boy before I met her. She stole my hart and I want to marry her. I am 100% faithful and honest with her. Unfortunately we have had to make our relationship a long distance one for the past 6 months and possibly for another 9 to 12 months more.  Basically I am finding it hard to maintain an active level of communication with her. I want Yuki to tell me how she is feeling and what she is going through; maybe I am telling her that I love her too much, calling her too much and writing too much.  Yuki doesn't really write or call me often.  Maybe once a week, and I try to call her at least once every two days; sometimes just to say hello.  I am trying my best to keep myself occupied and busy while we are apart, but I don't go out anymore as I don't want to put myself in a stressful situation.  It's not that I would cheat on her, but I am a man and seeing all the women out there makes me want it and I can get depressed sometimes. How can I tell her this?  What can I do to get Yuki to open up to me?   I love her, but to be honest, I need more communication from her.  She also goes dancing a lot, sometimes till six in the morning and I get jealous and worried.  I want to know what keeps her out so late but she wont tell me.  I trust her, but I just want to feel like I'm part of her daily life.  What advice do you have for me?"
 
We see some inconsistencies here.  While you say that you trust her and love her but then you want to monitor every moment of her life when she is not with you.  Maybe she is just a private person who does not want to give you minor details of her life on a daily basis and isn't interested in details of your life either.  If you both love each other, it is nice to know how each one is doing, but too much attention can be suffocating.  You need to involve your mind in other things while she is away so that you do not obsess about her.

Secondly, it also seems that you are more serious about the relationship than she is.  Here are a few questions to ask:

• Are you sure you should trust her as much as you are doing? 
• If she is partying, why shouldn't you? 
• Why do you have to take all the initiative while she is just acting as if she is not interested? 
• While you have said that you want to marry her, but are you engaged? 
• Has she committed to marry you? 
• What makes you confident that she will not just break up anytime?