Office romance can hurt you

Jenny writes, “I am a 24 year old woman, married with a son.  I work as an Executive Assistant.  My boss used to make advances at me for a long time. He threatened to fire me and made my life difficult at work.  I did not tell my husband about it.  So I finally gave in to his demands since I needed the job.  We started having an affair.  Then he became jealous and possessive with me to the point of even demanding physical intimacy at will.  I started saying no as I reminded him that I was married.  He threatened to tell my husband about the affair.  When my husband comes to the office, he gets angry and shows it.  The other day my husband came to see me at the office and he did not allow him to see me and told him I was very busy and did not need to be disturbed.  I only learned about this incident from my husband later that evening.  What should I do?  I don’t want to lose my husband or my job.  He sometimes asks me to be intimate with him at awkward hours. I regret this but how do I come out of this situation?  I hate myself.  Please help me?"
 
I can understand how you feel.  You could have avoided this predicament.  This is how far advances of men at work can go if you don’t deal with them immediately.  A stitch in time saves nine.  Don’t open the door to bad relationships because of poverty, desperation, lack of job or loneliness.  You don’t need this extra baggage in your life.  In life when you learn to confront situations as they come, you will be a winner.  Deal with situations ‘head on’.  Don’t be a coward. Sometimes you can lose that thing but at least you will still have your integrity and dignity and no one can take it away unless you give it away yourself.

Good things always come in the end.  You have the key.  You must now stand up for your rights and end this relationship.  Hopefully, your boss will appreciate your decision.  If not, it is best to find another job.
 
Further reading:  How to deal with office romance?

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