Romantic communication with your partner

We will try to highlight the importance of romantic communication among couples. What we have concluded through discussions with over a dozen couples last week is that not only women but even men like romantic communication. Now we are not talking about writing poems or just saying "romantic" words; what we are talking about are all kinds of communication between a couple that is related to their relationship, their bond with each other, and how they feel about each other. So when you see your husband going to work and he looks good in his new Hugo Boss shirt, tell him. It will make him feel good and he will love you even more for it for noticing it and then saying it. His secretary or colleagues might say the same thing but that is not romantic. Similarly, when your wife or girlfriend comes out of the shower and you notice her hair or her fragrance or her body, mention what you like; she will appreciate it.

As relationships mature it is not just words that matter; even actions can be equally powerful. For example, bringing flowers or small gifts or doing exactly what your partner wanted are all equally romantic things.

What else does romantic communication do?

• It strengthens the bond between a couple.
• It makes communication on all other topic so much smoother. Our research showed that both men and women sometimes do not share their most intimate desires with each other because they think that they do not have the right level of communication with them. How awful! So be romantic as much as you can and this will improve your communication so that your partner talks about his/her most intimate thoughts with YOU and not with some stranger in an online chat room.
• When you share how you feel about your partner, your partner is also motivated to do the same; otherwise, she or he feels guilty that she or he is holding back. So give some of your thoughts and wait for a response and then give back some more. Very soon you will be communicating like very close friends.
• Don't be embarrassed about the topics that you want to include in your romantic communications. If you are reserved with your own partner, who else will you go to?

So open your heart to your own partner and all you will get in return is more love. Romantic communication is the key to making two partners understand each other to a level that one does not have to say what she or he wants and the other partner knows exactly what it is and that is when things really become good.

Suggested reading: Communication among married couples