Seduce and please your man

Do you know of many men that would actually complain that their wives/partners are not doing enough to make them interested in them? Well, there are men who just do not want to do the hard work and blame it on their partners. They expect that their partners will basically do everything for them, seduce them, make sure that they are satisfied, and then even clean them afterwards.

Let us review what Pam is going through. Here husband complains that she does not initiate intimacy as often as he would like. He says to her, "You do wonderful initiating bread-and-butter style intimacy, but that's it." She asks, "Where/how can I learn more positions and activities to introduce into our lives? We have (had) been intimate frequently, but that has changed dramatically due to this problem. Please help?"

Judy, who is only 24 and has a boyfriend who is 26, is facing a similar dilemma. "My boyfriend doesn't find it fun with me anymore. What can I do to make it more fun and exciting? We were doing great about two months ago. I didn't know that there was something wrong with it. I don't think that there is someone else. He wants me to seduce him more but there is a problem there.....I don't know how. I never have before. We talked about it and he said that I am boring now. We used to be able to go for hours and now I'm lucky if it lasts even twenty minutes. Is this my fault, and if so, what can I do to make it better?"

We believe that the problem is not with YOU but with HIM. So, if it is boring then it is your fault; and you have to do everything while he just sits there and makes you feel miserable. So one thing that we would really like you to do is to gradually discard this idea that there is something wrong with you. It is not. While we think he is the one who needs some help but we will give him the benefit of doubt and in any case it is better to work with someone who gets it (YOU) than someone who doesn't (HIM). (Related: Lower libido)

Having said that, it is to be noted that men too need to be seduced. It is simply not true that men are always ready for it. They also need to get into the mood and a woman has a responsibility there (as does a man who also need to reciprocate to get her into the mood).

Here are a few things that you can do to get him into the mood:

1. Redecorate your bedroom. Make into a place where one can feel totally relaxed.
2. Invest in lingerie. There is no better way to stimulate a man's imagination than through some attractive lingerie.
   
3. Learn how to give a massage. It is a great way to get ready for an eventful night.
4. Build up a stock of videos, toys and games for couples.
5. All these are, of course, meaningless, if you are not creative enough to use them in unique ways. So find out what he likes? Is he into roleplaying? Does he have any fantasies? Open your mind to new possibilities and try whatever new you can come up with. One day it can be the Arabian Nights and the other day it can be the schoolgirl. It will then be hard for him to complain that it is boring.

Related link:

Wear a thong for him

Intimacy for couples