Why men commit adultery?

This is a question that many women keep asking us. Many women are simply suspicious that their man might be committing adultery or is likely to commit adultery soon either because they are pregnant or have put on weight or is no longer young.

LuvCube.com recently completed a series of discussions with a group of men who openly discussed their examples (their identities were kept secret to elicit honest responses). Below are the three common themes that we saw why men commit adultery?

1. Curiosity: Particularly among men who have had only one partner. Many of them just want to find out what it is like to be with another woman. If it is kept a secret, they do not typically abandon their wives or families. We found it to be particularly true among men from cultures where dating and intimate relationships with women prior to marriage are not possible. These men claim that they do not love these other women but their curiosity sometimes extends beyond one woman when they succeed in their first attempt at adultery.
2. Physical satisfaction: Not getting what they want out of a relationship. They characterized them as more adventurous and open-minded and when their wives resisted or ridiculed them for their demands, they simply cheated. Not surprisingly, they did not see anything wrong with it.
3. Addiction to women: Or to intimacy with them. There was a big disconnect between the frequency of intimacy that they desired and what their wives were providing them. They have poor control over their behavior and simply went ahead with whoever was willing to satisfy them.

What can women do stop their men from committing adultery?

• Communicate with your partner: These men very clearly said that their wives just wouldn't listen to what they thought were very reasonable demands from a relationship. They, then, revolted against rigid behavior of their partners. They agreed that if their partners had been a little more cooperative, they would have resisted cheating.
• Be open-minded about what your partner wants: Two perfectly normal people can have very different ideas about what is acceptable in bed. Just because what your husband wants is different than your comfort zone, do not just rebel. Unless it is something that is out of this world, you should at least give it a try or discuss with your partner to work out a compromise.
• Understand your partner's needs: Frequency of intimacy is another area of disagreement among cheating men and their partners. There is no simple solution to it other than to come to some sort of a compromise but a hard-headed attitude only results in adultery by the man.

Adultery in a relationship can have disastrous consequences, particularly for the woman who might feel totally rejected, helpless, and lose her self-esteem. For each of the cases mentioned above, there is help out there. So do your research, visit all the websites that provide excellent information, and then choose the program that will meet your needs.

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