Couples with large age gaps

When women date a man with a significant age difference, they sometimes end up creating some interesting situations. In general what we have found since we first published our article about mature women dating younger men is that there is a lot more understanding among both men and women now but some of the values in the society are still such that people do not know how to deal with them.

Let us take a look at Samantha's situation. She is 33 and a single parent with three children: ages 16, 10 and 6. She says, "I'm finding myself attracted to a 21 year old. We have talked and he said that age didn't matter to him. My oldest is a boy and there is only a difference of 5 years between them. Is this going to be a bad thing? I am confused; please help."

This is what we see in your case:

1. Such situation is very common when it is a mature man dating a younger girl. So as we found in another article (Related article: Mature woman dating younger man are quite happy), you should not worry as most other men and increasingly women out there in similar situations don't.
2. Is your son going to feel awkward? Probably. But at this age he will feel awkward even if your boyfriend was 33. Teenage years are difficult and there are too many uncomfortable situations. Hopefully with the support from both of you, he will learn to deal with it.
3. Another issue that you need to think about is why is this man interested in you. Since he knows that you are a single parent with three kids, he probably knows what he is getting into but you must still be careful if you think he is simply exploiting the situation. (Related article: Younger men increasingly support the choices of their older partners) If you are convinced that his feelings for you are genuine and he will be there for you long term, then go ahead. Otherwise, you better make sure that he understands the enormous responsibility that he is about to undertake (unless you guys want to date only casually and do not wish to get serious).

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