How to seduce a shy man?

Lisa in San Jose, California, adores Herman, a handsome, 27-year old, computer programmer. She thinks that he likes her too. The problem: the guy is just too shy. Lisa tells us, "I am positive that he would love to be with me but he never even makes eye contact with me. Though I have been told by my friends (and I think I might have noticed it too), he always looks at me secretly. We are in the same Bible study group and get together twice a week. How can I seduce this shy man? While I am not a bold woman either, but I am definitely not as shy as him." (Related: How to make a man notice you)

It is indeed true that shy people have a very difficult time mingling with people. They have problems not only with members of the opposite gender; in fact many of them do not even mix freely with their own gender. Naturally this affects their chances of going ahead in life (and that is why many of them enter areas like programming where they can go ahead without the need to overcome their shyness). Shyness also makes it difficult for them to date and enter strong relationships because they never share their innermost thoughts. We recently helped Melissa who had a similar problem (Related article: How to overcome shyness?)

April Masini, the expert on romance and relationships, has written extensively on the topic of shyness for both men and women and here is her article on how to conquer shyness.

What we would suggest is that since you are the "bold" one, you should make the first move but do not suggest a date right away. You might want to first gain his trust and become his friend. Only when you have that bond established, you should suggest something more romantic.

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