Divorce destroys families
Divorce has such a serious impact on most people, particularly women, that they lose their balance, get depressed, and even destroy their lives (and of their children, if any). This has been illustrated very well by the example of Jolie.
Her sister, Dora, writes, "Jolie is 36 and was married to her highschool sweetheart for 13 years and has three daugthers. In fall of 2001, her husband Joe met a much younger woman. Jolie did not handle it well in the beginning. She fought with Joe and once when she ran into both of them at a local restaurant, she created a scene. Joe has been mad since then. He has used all tactics that he could with the help of his lawyers to delay a divorce and pay her child support. Naturally, she is suffering along with the children who have not vacationed for three years now and just can't understand that they can't buy anything beyond the textbooks. She has started dating a much younger man and I am afraid that she is trying to run away from her problems and her children. Joe is happily living with his new girlfriend. What can I do to help her so that she does not destroy her life. She is so much into her boyfriend right now that she does not want to listen to anyone."
Jolie's behavior is not unusual. When people go through a divorce, they get totally disoriented and try to catch on to something - it can be a relationship or addiction to alcohol or whatever else that they can latch on to. These are a few things that you can do for her benefit:
Her sister, Dora, writes, "Jolie is 36 and was married to her highschool sweetheart for 13 years and has three daugthers. In fall of 2001, her husband Joe met a much younger woman. Jolie did not handle it well in the beginning. She fought with Joe and once when she ran into both of them at a local restaurant, she created a scene. Joe has been mad since then. He has used all tactics that he could with the help of his lawyers to delay a divorce and pay her child support. Naturally, she is suffering along with the children who have not vacationed for three years now and just can't understand that they can't buy anything beyond the textbooks. She has started dating a much younger man and I am afraid that she is trying to run away from her problems and her children. Joe is happily living with his new girlfriend. What can I do to help her so that she does not destroy her life. She is so much into her boyfriend right now that she does not want to listen to anyone."
Jolie's behavior is not unusual. When people go through a divorce, they get totally disoriented and try to catch on to something - it can be a relationship or addiction to alcohol or whatever else that they can latch on to. These are a few things that you can do for her benefit:
- Be supportive. If you lecture her, she will only run away from you. You have to be a good listener so that she understands that you are her friend.
- Do whatever you can help the kids in the meantime. If you can host the kids for a weekend or buy them small gifts or bring them to a theme park or even take them out to a restaurant, please do so.
- Let one or two men in the family schedule a meeting with Joe and try to make him understand what he may be inadvertantly doing to the family. If he continues to use his anger towards Jolie to harm the kids, he has accomplished nothing and may have caused lifelong damage to the kids.
- It is good that she has a relationship (she definitely needs someone who can give her the support that she needs) but you have to convince her to not get consumed by it. She has to deal with her problems - they are not going away.
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