Dump a bad boyfriend and move on

It is not easy to dump a boyfriend based on how many instances we come across where women are basically stuck with the wrong guy, generally due to low self-esteem. "How am I going to find another boyfriend?" is the question that keeps women from even trying.

Let us review what Marie's situation is. "I have been dating someone for over three years. We have broken up several times. He says he is not ready for a relationship since he does not have the time to devote 100% to the relationship because of his children 11 and 15 because they have so much going on in their lives and at the same time keeps the connection between us going by leading me on. At first I thought the person needed some time, but more and more I feel the relationship is only physical now, but he says it's not because he cares for me. I have not met this man's mom or been invited to take part in his life on a deeper level. For a year and half we have been back and forth. I know the relationship is over but I can't seem to move on. We have not had any fights or heated arguements, but the relationship has stalled and it seems to me I am just convenient and it is not that he does not have time, because he seems to have time for everyone but me. How do I end things and move on?"

For Marie and other women like her, our advice: Get the hell out of a relationship like this. You are codependent. The guy is simply using you and is not interested in any meaningful relationship. If you do have problems with your personality, admit those to yourself, and work on them. There is tremendous help for women how to improve their self esteem and how to take control of their lives. Some of the articles that we recommend are:

How to be independent

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When should you breakup?

How to breakup and then move on?