Seduce your boss - tips

Greta writes, "I am in love with my boss who is a Japanese diplomat living and working in Europe without his family. I am 23 and he is 47. I don't know how to approach him as I am scared of losing my job! I can't tell if he likes me or not as even though he once told me I was like a flower. I know I am (not to be too vain) quite young and pretty for him but I can't tell what he is thinking. As he is Japanese, he has quite Japanese manners, that is, often avoids direct eye contact with women in general and also hides his sentiments from his gaze. However, I have seen him looking at my body when he thinks I am not looking. I have also heard that the Japanese consider Europeans inferior to them. I don't know what my reputation is among the Japanese colleagues but I am very pretty and would not be surprised if some women are jealous. Please advise me how to seduce this man without losing my job."

Warning: Please do not read further if you need or love your job.

1. It is not right to assume that Japanese men think of Europeans as inferior. While Japanese in general believe that they are superior to the whole world but at the same time they also think that other races are better than them in so many ways. In fact they often admire the fact that Europeans are so good looking or they don't work so hard with all the vacations that they get or that Europe is at least as culturally rich as Japan is. So let us work with the hypothesis that he does not think of you as inferior.
2. Japan is not a great country for its own people when it comes to speaking Japanese. That is why kids that grow up overseas and do not know Japanese very well do not do well in the Japanese system. So it is almost universally true that they leave their families back in Japan when they work overseas. It simply does not mean that they are looking to have relationship overseas. Or that they bring a mistress with them from Japan. Though I would not be surprised if he has a mistress in Germany now. But insofar as you are concerned, it is much better that his wife is not with him.
3. It is common for Japanese men to praise their female colleagues, particularly if they are good looking. It does not mean anything: it is just a way to make them feel better so that they will work harder. Sometimes it is an indirect way to say that they like you.
4. Japanese are among the most inscrutable people in the world and even the Japanese have a hard time determining the feelings of other Japanese. So let us be careful here.
5. The Japanese take work very seriously and for them the distinction between work and private life is not very clear. So it is not difficult to understand why everything around him is work related. The Japanese are also not very comfortable cracking jokes particularly in a foreign language. In general most Japanese are very uncomfortable and shy in the presence of foreigners, particularly women. And from the way you describe to me, you have a vivacious personality and that may intimidate him somewhat. But you can work on that and transform yourself into a timid girl who is ready for seduction by a Japanese man.
6. Don't worry what your reputation is. The Japanese folks around you might talk whatever they want behind your back so it is best to ignore it.
7. The Japanese are very discreet people so whatever you do has to be done with total secrecy. Remember that he is not only your boss he is also a public figure in both Europe and Japan. If anything leaks to the media, it will be just terrible. So all your interaction with him has to be such that you come across to him as a person who can be trusted all the time with any secrets. Do not forget that he is a diplomat.
8. I am not clear what you want from him. I understood that you just want a casual relationship or a fling with him. I think chances for you to seduce him, maybe even take a secret trip with him are high, but to expect that he will do anything more is highly unlikely.
9. My gameplan on a very high level right now is that you should first test him (is he a good candidate for seduction?), secondly find out how/where to seduce him, and finally what to do to seduce him. It could take a few weeks but if you do it slowly and patiently, strategically (with all possible scenarios planned out), carefully (so that you can still keep your job and not create a scandal), and discreetly, you might actually succeed.
10. Finally, any office romance is like playing with fire so be aware of the risks involved.

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