Shyness can be overcome

Those of you who are not familiar with Melissa's case that we dealt with in our previous article may want to read that first (Recommended link: How to overcome shyness?). Those who are aware of her case or have read it, should read the following update from her:

"I want to tell you what happened with the guy. After I read your article and I started to talk more to him, and things worked out great. I have recently invited him to a family party, but that same day I found out he has a girlfriend, but they are having problems. Since then things have changed; he is not as friendly as he used to be. He doesn't smile at me anymore, and he seems kind of annoyed to see me. Did I do something wrong? Things seemed great until now."

First of all, congratulations on the progress that you have made. You deserve our praise because you have learned a new skill and this will come in handy later on in life.

Since we don't know enough about the whole situation (and probably you don't know much either about what is going on in his life), there are several scenarios that are possible:

• It is definitely a red flag that he has a girlfriend. My personal advice is that it is best to stay away from such a man till you know for sure that they have broken up.
• Men can sometimes get cranky when they are going through problems in their relationships. That could explain his cold attitude towards you.
• There is a small possibility that you did do/say something that he did not like (I have no way to know what it is and you probably will never be able to find out too).

What can you do next?

• Stop worrying about him too much. You did all the right things and if it did not work out it is best to learn from it and move on.
• Leave him alone for a while. It is best to be polite but do not try anything else till you know more.
• Do entertain him appropriately at the family event.
• And now that you have learned to make friends with people, it is a good time to start with other men.

Recommended article: How to find the right man?

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