Breakup tips for teenagers

No matter how terrible it might seem, but breaking up is very much a part of romantic life. You find someone, fall in love, and things change. You need to end the relationship then. Breaking up is never easy, even for grownups and those that have broken up several times. And it is even more difficult to accept for someone who is likely to be surprised/shocked by the breakup because it was not expected. Let us review the case of Zach's girlfriend who is madly in love with him but Zach wants to move on. (Related article: Dating tips for teenagers)

"She thinks she is totally in love with me and I would guess that she thinks I am totally in love with her too. But, although I really do care for her, I do not care for her in that sense. I really want to be with someone else and I have been wanting this for some time now. I know it may sound like I am trying to make myself sound really special but, I'm not. I am afraid that my girlfriend will hurt herself if I breakup with her. How do I prevent this and how do I let her know that I want to be with someone else (she would know even if I didn't tell her because I am in a high school) without tearing her apart. Also, how do I stop her from coming back? I have broken up with her twice before and she has both times somehow convinced me to go back out with her," Zach says. (Related article: How to breakup without hurting your partner)

There are some very important things to be remember when breaking up with anyone, but particularly so, when breaking up with someone who seems to love you and care for you so much:

1. Be a gentleman. And treat her like a lady. No matter even if she was mean to you or if you did not like something about her, this is not the time to make her feel miserable. Bring out the best in you and you will feel much better for the rest of your life. Do not forget that she is a human being (a teenager on top of that) with emotions and feelings.
2. Be honest. Tell her exactly what the reason is. Do not lie or beat around the bush. Let her know everything that you have liked about her and what all that means to you, but emphasize that you would like to move on and she will be just fine without you.
3. Clearly indicate that your decision is final. In your case, this is very important because she may not trust that you mean it since you have gone back to her before.
4. Find a good friend of her, if possible, and let him/her know what you plan to do. Seek his/her help so that there is someone by her side as she tries to deal with the shock.
5. Finally, once you are done, do not look back. Just move on. It may be hard for you to imagine that you are responsible for her misery, but it is best that you get out of her life as fast as you can. That will make it easy for her to move on as well.

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