Ending a long term relationship

After some reports that Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston may have gotten a divorce over having children, many couples are realizing that it is something that they need to deal with early on the relationship. However, it can also mean that it might very well be the end of the relationship. In many cases, couples do not deal with this issue hoping that after they get married, they can deal with or even if one person is opposed to it, she or he will change.

There is no good answer to it, but it is best to deal with this as early as possible. But for Alice in Los Angeles, it was the end of her relationship. "I have been with my boyfriend for seven years and have just had a talk with him about marriage and children. Well, he gave his case of why he has not wanted either and then asked me to wait six weeks until he got some stuff together then he would let me know what he wants to do. Well, it hasn't been six weeks yet, and I have come to realize I don't want to marry him and or have children with him. How do I end this relationship after I opened this can of worms?" she asks.

How to end a relationship?

Indeed, you were with who we call as a "commitment phobic man." A man who wants to have all the fun but does not want to take on any responsibility that comes with being in a relationship. If your priorities are not his priorities, then it is time for you to let him go.

Now comes the hard part. How do you throw someone out of your life with whom you have been so intimate for seven long years? Trust me, it is not going to be easy to end this relationship, but here is how you go about it:

1. First, make sure that you really want to end this. In other words, if the guy starts to plead and make promises, you will not change your mind. To breakup, you must be 100% sure that you want to end this relationship.
2. You do not have to be mean to him either. Just because you are ending a relationship, you have no right to knowingly hurt him or tell him mean things at this point in the relationship. Like laying someone off, be professional and courteous. The world is small - you never know how you might run into him again or even need him.
3. Tell him what your priorities are and how there is no match between the two. You have been with him for seven years but it is time for you to move on to a new phase. And in that phase there is no place for him. Will he kindly move on and let you move on as well? Keep it short, sweet, and without emotion. Do not spend a lot of time so that you breakdown. If he lives with you or has things that you share or keep, either give him those right away or tell him exactly what he can do to let you/him move out as soon as possible.
4. Take a break for at least 90 days from dating and relationships. Recharge your mind and soul. And when you refreshed and full of energy, start a new life.

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