Control a man wearing feminine lingerie

I have been helping a woman who happens to be deeply in love with a man, Thomas, who loves to dress up in her lingerie. She accepts him as he is and does not mind his choices in underwear. He often puts makeup on, wears heels, and paints his nails. She willingly helps him do that. There is one problem, though. He wants her to be in control. "But sometimes I really do not know what to do or what to tell him to wear. He does give me control, but it's not my wish. What he is really concerned about when it's happening is me giving him praise for it and not getting mad. His personality on a regular basis is a man who is in control and who is always right, so this is totally opposite of his regular personality. I guess a lot of times I am insecure because he doesn't act like I am sexy when this goes on. He doesn't care what I am wearing or how I look. All he wants me to tell him is how sexy he is. When he does this he wants me to pick his clothes, panties, bra, etc. out, but I tell him to surprise me because I don't really know what he wants. Please help," she asks.

I think Thomas really has two personalities. One, a regular man (as you describe him - manly, in control, always right, arrogant, etc.). The other one is submissive and feminine. It seems that he can change from one to another relatively easily but it is hard for you to switch so easily. The question that you have to ask yourself is if you are willing to live with such a person. In one transformation of his personality he becomes something that you do not necessarily like - self-centered, selfish, too concerned about his pleasure and ignoring you. In the other one, he meets your expectations.

If you want to be with this man long term, another question that you have to answer is - what pleases you? What would make you happy and satisfied? If you know that then you can come up with a plan on how to get it out of him. The way I see is that you have to make it happen. You have to tell him how to please you. In any case, he is letting you take charge anyway. I think he wants you to be the one to dominate and treat him so that he is the one who pleases you while you praise him for doing a great job. (Related article: Roleplay for a better relationship)

I would like you to try this with him. Get all your confidence in one place and take total charge. Think of him as a toy who is there to please you. You will be subtle about it but you want to give him what he wants while getting in return what you want. I am guessing that you want attention and praise while he wants something similar. He expects it from you while you have to make him do it. If you do not know what to tell him to wear, just tell him whatever. To him it doesn't matter as long as it comes from you. You can start off by taking charge of what he wears and what he does. I think you have to order him to even look at you or admire what you are wearing or how you look. You can even order him to touch you in a certain way or to please you the way you want. What he is expecting in return is that when he does what you tell him to do he will be praised by you. You can also use some kind of a reward mechanism to do exactly what you want him to do. For instance, you can say "If you do this, I will buy you a pair red nylon panties."

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