Loving someone 10 years younger
Olga, who is just 30 years old, teaches at a university on the west coast, but can not really be labeled as a mature woman dating a younger guy. She is married and has a four-year old son but she says, "My husband does not love me any more; sometimes he behaves like a beast towards me. Now I have fallen in love with a man who is only 20," she tells me. I asked her a couple of questions to better understand her situation and this is what she told me.
"I have never cheated in my life, and I do not think I can do it in the future. Leading a double life is not for me. What I can do is to divorce my husband and marry another man. But here I have another problem. I cannot live alone. It is not about money; I can earn my living since I am a professor. I have never been alone, and loneliness frightens me. So the only way for me, as I understand, is to find a good and loving father for my child and husband for me. Please, do not blame me for being too practical. I am a mother, my son is what I must care about," she says.
I totally understand what Olga is saying and I support all of her decisions. I think she is doing the right things. There is no point in staying with a man who abuses his partner.
In my previous articles I have said that based on my experience that age is less and less of an issue for most men and women now. But is 20 too young to think of a long-term committed relationship with a woman who also has a son? Olga fears so. "But he is only 20 and wants to take things easy for a while. Is he able to take responsibility and have a family? Yes, he is nice and patient to my son, but he does not live with us, and it is quite a different thing," she says.
Yes, it is hard for a man to think of a wife and son at the age of 20 and that is going to be a challenge for you with this man. In my opinion, if Olga has a friendship with him for a long time then he will not only get used to the idea of being with someone who is older than him but also start realizing that marrying this wonderful woman and living with her son is also a great idea.
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"I have never cheated in my life, and I do not think I can do it in the future. Leading a double life is not for me. What I can do is to divorce my husband and marry another man. But here I have another problem. I cannot live alone. It is not about money; I can earn my living since I am a professor. I have never been alone, and loneliness frightens me. So the only way for me, as I understand, is to find a good and loving father for my child and husband for me. Please, do not blame me for being too practical. I am a mother, my son is what I must care about," she says.
I totally understand what Olga is saying and I support all of her decisions. I think she is doing the right things. There is no point in staying with a man who abuses his partner.
In my previous articles I have said that based on my experience that age is less and less of an issue for most men and women now. But is 20 too young to think of a long-term committed relationship with a woman who also has a son? Olga fears so. "But he is only 20 and wants to take things easy for a while. Is he able to take responsibility and have a family? Yes, he is nice and patient to my son, but he does not live with us, and it is quite a different thing," she says.
Yes, it is hard for a man to think of a wife and son at the age of 20 and that is going to be a challenge for you with this man. In my opinion, if Olga has a friendship with him for a long time then he will not only get used to the idea of being with someone who is older than him but also start realizing that marrying this wonderful woman and living with her son is also a great idea.
Recommended article: Challenges of dating a younger man
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