Is he really cheating on you? Get the evidence first

Much more than men, women suspect cheating as soon as their partner does not give them his full attention. For instance, Cindy writes to us, "I feel like my boyfriend is cheating on me. He hardly tells me that he loves me anymore; doesn't even want to have sex with me and when I ask him to take a walk or do something together, it seems like it's a problem. The only time we spend together is when we do things with other people or when we sleep at night. Please help."

I think that all the indicators are that he is cheating but I would encourage you to not draw that conclusion yet till you have some evidence. Most people draw that conclusion right away but we have found in our experience that there are other things that can happen that could lead to this sort of behavior without adultery being an issue.

Here are some possibilities to consider. Is he depressed? Has he lost interest in you? Has something else happened that has made him angry towards you and he is just taking his anger out like this?

It is always good to start off with a nice little chat to find out why he is ignoring you and that you would like to work with him to resolve any issues so that you can have a normal relationship. You can emphasize that if there is something that you have done and it was not right, you are willing to apologize for it and rectify your mistakes. If he does not want to work with you and still behaves the same, you might want to find out if he is depressed or there is a problem in his life (most likely at work) that he has not shared with you.

At that point you may also want to find out if he is really cheating. There are very simple telltale signs of cheating and there are also other solutions available for tracking phone calls and internet activity if that is needed. If you have evidence of his cheating and he also does not want to make the relationship to work, you might have to end the relationship at that point.

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