Painless breakups. Are they possible?

Can there be breakups without pain? Sounds like an oxymoron but it is indeed possible to minimize the pain to your partner when you do want to end a relationship.

Faith is in a relationship with a man that she does not like all that much but the guy is deeply and madly in love with her. In fact, Faith tells me that she is a heartbreaker and might have gotten a bad reputation in the area because of that, but she still wants to end her current relationship. "Is there any way to have him breakup with me instead? For instance, have him change his feelings for me somehow? I need your help," she writes.

There is always pain when a couple ends their relationship particularly when one partner loves the other more than the other. However, the more honest you are about it the lesser will be the pain. I know one simple trick could be that you make him believe that you are seeing someone else and that would make him dump you. Somehow I don't like this deceptive approach. What would be most appropriate is to tell him in rather general terms that things have changed in your life and you would like to end your relationship with him. You can honestly tell him that you are not seeing anyone else nor do you think of him as a bad man. You just do not wish to be in "ANY" relationship at all. And you would really appreciate if you can end the relationship. And do not agree on being friends or to revisit the issue after a few weeks. It just does not work when you are quite clear about what you want. And to be a lady, you should not jump into another relationship the very next day. Hopefully, you will take a break for a few weeks. In that time, he will move on and so can you.

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