How to marry a man you meet online?

Tanya is a 45-year old divorcee in San Diego, and through the wonders of online matchmaking, has met a 29-year old in Venezuela. Emails, phone and online chats have even led to his proposing to her get married. "He does't care about our age gap. He wants to have a future with me, but I want to make sure that he means everything that he says. I will be meeting him and his family next month for the very first time and am nervous because I don't know what to expect. Not too long he spoke to my younger sister and told her how much he loves me and wants to make me happy till death do us part. I already went through a bad marriage and he know this, and he wants to treat me as a wife should be treated. Can you please give me some advice on this relationship? I truly want to love him as much as he loves me. Do you think that he is sincere?"

While I have seen great relationships developing out of even casual encounters over the web, I am wondering if he wants one of those marriage for green card. It is something to think about since to promise all this without even meeting you once is somewhat suspicious. Indeed, there are arranged marriages, but for someone like you, I would not advise that you think of marriage till you have not only met him but actually spent some time with him. (Related: Mature women dating younger guys)

Let me tell you - anyone can be nice on the phone or online but people can be very different in real life. Since you have an opportunity to find out first before you commit to marriage, it is best to do your research first. So it is a good idea to visit him and his family and check him out. Maybe you will like him, maybe not. And just behave as you would with another man who was your age - so don't pay much attention to the fact that he is younger since most young men now support their mature girlfriends. (Related: Challenges of dating a younger man)

Since you have already gone through a bad marriage, I would suggest that you be more careful picking your partner this time. So when you see him and if you like him, please do not say yes to marrying him right away. If possible, ask him to visit you in the US for a few weeks. (Related: Relationships of mature women and younger men)

Only when you have fully checked him out and tested his sincerity, should you marry him. Make this decision slowly. As I said earlier, go slow when dating online. There is no need to rush. I am a little bit doubtful of his intentions at this point, no matter what he says and how romantic he sounds.

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