How to find if your husband is gay?

I have written previously for the beneift of those women who wonder if their partner is gay, particularly if he wears feminine underwear or likes to take care of himself or is just a little feminine and enjoys wearing lingerie. In most cases, they are worrying about the wrong person. Such men are either metrosexuals or simply exploring their feminine side.

On the other hand, research shows, millions of men are actually gay, but pretending to be straight or are in denial about their orientation. High profile examples include evangelical leader Ted Haggard, former Congressman Mike Huffington, and former New Jersey Governor Jim McGreevey. Bonnie Kaye, the author of "Is He Gay? A Checklist of Women Who Wonder," has some tips to find out if you are stuck with someone who is a closeted individual:

• If your husband thinks you are a nymphomaniac or "pushy and aggressive" because you want sex twice a week.
• If physical intimacy steeply declines within the first few years of marriage.
• You're always more active in the bedroom than your husband.
• If your husband is turned off by the thought of touching your private area or performing oral sex on you.
• If his best friend is gay and he often hangs out with him and his friends.
• If he is excessively homophobic, mocking and imitating other gay men (that was what Ted Haggard did and build a little empire for himself by urging clueless Christians to join him in his homophobia).
• If he brags about gay men complimenting him on his looks.