Men must always respect his dating partner

Men not only appear to have commitment phobia, they some times even do not want to admit that they are dating someone. Laura recently ended up with a guy like that. While Karl was sweet to her and treated her well when the two of them were together, but would never offer to hang out with friends and family members. Then one day she found out something even worse. Read it in her own words.

"Karl is a an actor and the other day I decided to surprise him by going to his show. During the intermission, I sent word backstage that I was in the audience. After the show was over, I went to meet him. He introduced me to a few of his cast members but one girl asked if I was his girlfriend, and I just heard him say, "I told you already I don't have a girlfriend." I said goodbye and left. I decided that I'm taken for granted by this man. We have done everything that couples do and he still thinks that we are not in a relationship. I don't knw if I should cut him off completely or just have him as a friend. What do you think?"

My Advice

You know "I told you already I don't have a girlfriend" is the operative expression. In other words, either he is just using you or does not think of you as girlfriend material, of even worse, he has another girlfriend.

I know it takes a while before you start to publicly introduce your girlfriend and in that situation, he should have said, "Yes, that is the beautiful lady I am dating right now and I am so happy." That way you are still not saying that you are in a serious relationship but you are not treating the woman like a piece of garbage either.

My recommendation would be that you let him go - if you continue to be with him, he will simply assume that you are desperate and continue to humiliate you like this. If he is dating you, he should have had no problems saying that you two are dating right now - even if he did not want to introduce you as his girlfriend.

I know it is going to be hard but maybe it is time to move on.