Guys low self esttem

We often assume that only women have self-esteem issues, that they are the ones that keep beating them up for not having perfect bodies. Men too can have low self esteem and lack confidence.

Michael is one such man and he honestly shared his fears with me. "About my looks I am not really sure. Most of my friends are, well, guys I have known for a long time. I have my older sisters and they are all telling me I look good. But can you really trust family with this stuff? And again I am a well-built guy. I don't go to the gym every day. So I am really not sure where I stand, but if you ask me I may be standing on the line of average or below. So if looks are what a girl thinks about, I am not sure if I am still in trouble or what?" he asks.

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Well, first of all, it seems that so many people can't be wrong. If they think you look good, you probably do.

Secondly, even an average guy or girl can look great if you groom yourself properly. Have you seen those girls in the mall that show up in those baggy Tshirts and sweatpants? I hate 'em but I often see that they have great bodies and attractive faces. Still, I am not drawn to them at all. On the other hand, every man is attracted to a girl that makes an effort to put an outfit together and applies makeup the right way.

I don't know if you are the type who wears "whatever," but it is time to change that and girls will notice. Some simple changes like hairstyle, clothes, shoes, and accessories make a huge difference. Wear what you like and feel comfortable in, rather than trying to be someone you are not, but you should look put it all together, in contrast to getting out of bed and simply showing up at a party like that.

And finally, if average guy had no chances, then 90% of men will be single. That is not the case, as you well know. I am an average looking guy like you but am married to a very pretty woman (and have always dated reasonably good looking girls) who loves me for who I am. I pay attention when girls talk, I keep my promises, I show them respect, and I make them feel special. I don't drive an expensive car or tell great jokes or am the life of a party or have anything that makes me really stand out, but so are most girls.

So buddy, just raise your confidence, and don't obsess over your looks. Go ahead and do it -- trust me, it will be easier than you think and there are probably girls out there that keep wondering why you never even approached them.