My older girlfriend doubts my commitment to her

Remember the guy who is in love with his mature boss? Well, I heard from yet another man who is deeply in love with a mature mother but she is afraid that he wouldn't last.

"I am 20, and she is 36 with 2 kids. I am in college and she has her own house and her own business (she teaches pilates), she is recently divorced, we met maybe 6 months ago, and we were doing great. To be honest, at first all I wanted was the sex but in all fairness, she was after the same thing. We ended up falling in love. I love her very much and we had a few things come out of the closet (my past) but i think we have gotten through everything fine. Since we started getting rather serious, she has been putting space between us though. I feel it’s because she feels she is too old for me and she doesn't want me to miss out on some other great relationship with a younger girl. And I think this is because she thinks I might leave her for a younger girl later in our relationship. I have told her she doesn't have to worry about this at all. But apparently the pressure from her friends and her thinking about her kids' reaction to us dating is kinda pushing her away from me. What she doesn't know is that she is the most amazing person I have ever met. She is the only person I have ever been with, that I could truly act like myself. I feel free! I am a rather attractive guy, and I look about 26. A lot of people think there is no way she could be older than 29. When I saw her with kids I found it hard to believe they were hers. I recently helped her find a new car and nearly every salesperson thought we were married. If we go anywhere people think we are married. I've had people tell me "my son said ...." and they aren't even my boys. It really makes me happy that we look so happy together. I actually really like her boys; one of them is just so adorable and the other is a sweetheart. The oldest one is 9 and he is kinda shy. But I think in time he may open up a little. And I'm sure we'll get along great. The other is 5. He is so sweet and cute! I connect with him really well. I dunno, I feel happier with her than I've ever been. but I think our relationship might fall apart because of our age difference. I just don't know what to do. I feel like we're perfect together, and I know she loves me, but will that be enough? Is there anyway I can show her that it doesn't matter how old she is and that I love her for her and everything that comes with her. And I won't leave her as long as she keeps loving me. I have always wanted to be the one who takes care of everything, but since my relationship with her, my whole perspective on that has changed. I feel if we do work out, then later on when she wants to quit working, I'll be making more than enough money to support her easily, because right now, she'll be taking care of me, but eventually she won't be able to do that anymore. And men always die younger, so I think it's perfect. Why doesn't she see it this way?" he wonders.

I hear from dozens of men and women like you every month. Mature women often are way too conscious about their age and completely refuse to believe that a normal young man may actually want to marry them, "adopt" their kids, and never abandon them for a younger woman (to women who raise this issue with me, I tell them that there is no guarantee that a man their age or older than them would not do that -- they have no answer to that since we have decades of data to show that older man almost always picked a younger woman when they left their wives).

It appears that you have some work to do in convincing her that your love for her and the kids is genuine. That another man may leave her too for whatever reason and your age should not be held against you. That Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore are doing a great job as a couple and as parents. That friends who do not like the idea are just stuck in the old way of thinking. That she should not deny her and you the pleasure of a beautiful relationship.