63 year old woman dating 30 year old guy

Yesterday I published the story of a man who says "Cougars want me." Indeed they do a lot these days because I keep hearing stories from both men and women in relationships with huge age gaps. Today I have heard from one of these cougars.

Samantha writes, "I am 63 (though I am often told that I look 45) and my new boyfriend is just 30. In an attempt to discover the current consensus regarding this subject of older women dating younger guys, I discovered your site and found the questions, and especially, your responses helpful and a confirmation of my own philosophy. I've usually gone out with younger men. My first husband, and father of my 2 grownup sons, was 6 years younger than me, and my second husband was 15 years younger. My most recent boyfriend (10 years younger) and I broke up more than a year ago. I was not planning to find another man until I got myself "together" in various areas. I met this man through work, but don't work with him and have known him for 2 years. He has 2 young children. The only problem, it appears, with this relationship and some of the others mentioned on your site, is the response of other people. I don't care about those other people. However, I don't show intimate affection in public (but I never did). So unless they know us personally, they're going to wonder and guess and come to their own conclusions about the nature of our relationship no matter what is or isn't in the public eye. My philosophy is "be here now," "go with the flow," etc. I'm not interested in getting married again to anyone ever. I'm active, go to the gym, still work, write, camp, hike, enjoy my grandchildren, don't smoke or drink and really enjoy my life. My new man is an added bonus and his age is not a factor for me. what is a factor is that we both enjoy pretty much the same things. We talk for hours about everything, sex is great, and we're both enjoying discovering each other and ourselves. My advice to some of those others is "don't sweat the small stuff." We are all the future and we can change perceptions and break barriers by being true to ourselves. By the way, it takes practice and time to do that. One step at a time. Enjoy the ride!"

I do admire your attitude.I think a lot of men and women in your situation could learn from your experience. Prior to responding to you, I wrote to a man minutes ago who is worried what would his parents think of him dating an older woman.

I think we all get too hung up on education, job, age, social status, looks, etc., that we forget that what makes us happy and our relationships successful is if two people are compatible emotionally and spiritually and that can happen no matter what the age difference. I know many couples who live in horrible relationships, but guess what, they are the same age and are "perfect" in all other respects.