How can I find out if a younger man is interested in me?

Cynthia writes, "I started hooking up with a younger guy (who pursued me) who has a girlfriend. For me it is just fun, but seems from little comments, that he seems to have a problem with the age gap and situation. I broke it off because I cannot have fun with someone who is uncomfortable. My friend thinks he is really open. How can I tell what the real problem is?"

The best way to do it is to find out from him.

If he pursued you despite his not being single, he definitely has some has interest in you, and the age is probably not a major issue. We all have some level of discomfort in every dating situation, whether it is the age, race, ethnicity, education level, distance from the town, etc., and if the person is otherwise good, we all make compromises.

So go with an open mind and hint to him that you are interested in exploring a relationship with him. If you find out through his behavior and conversation that he is still biased about your age, time to say goodbye.

But you might very well find out that after he learns more about you, he might feel more comfortable with the idea of dating someone older than him.