Is it OK to kiss your friends on the lips if you are married?

Michelle writes, "The father of my unborn child and soon-to-be-husband thinks its okay to kiss other close female friends on the lips in my presence and makes statements like "my wife, she won't get jealous." At times it hurts me and he accuses me of being paranoid and jealous of him and his close friends. Don't I have enough reason to be? After all actions are stronger than words. Please advise me."

I think if this man has been kissing these women like that for a while and was the norm in his group of friends, it may not be a big deal in the sense that he is just continuing with that behavior. And maybe you should think again if you want to make a big deal about it and create friction in your relationship.

Having said that, he must stop doing it if you protest. As his fiancee you have a right to demand that he show physical intimacy towards you and you alone..

What you have to find out is why is he doing this? Is it some kind of group behavior? Is he also sexually involved with them? Are these women single? If not, do their partners not object?

Personally, if it is limited to a quick peck on the lips and there is nothing hanky-panky going on behind your back, you can ask him to stop but don't put your relationship on the line for this. These friends will probably get married and move on. However, if you think that he does not take you seriously as a future wife and wants to continue with his single lifestyle, it might be time to give him a serious warning.