Should I get divorce because of sexless marriage?

Emily writes, "I had been married for 10 years but I am getting divorced as we speak. I was in a sexless marriage. For the past few years our sex life just didn't exist. I mean it would literally be 4-6 weeks in between times we'd have sex. Even then I would try to put it off. I don't know what happened. When we first got together/married we were having sex all the time. Just one day we were not anymore. Never even noticed that it happened. So I don't know what the problem or solution is but that's the just my sexless story."

I think you did the right thing but what I would like you to think about is what is it that was missing in your relationship -- obviously, as you can imagine, relationships do change over time and physical intimacy declines for most couples that have been together for years.

Are you attracted to other men? Do you have erotic thoughts? Do you feel like making love? Do you have desire for self-pleasure, and if so, do you please yourself with a toy or a massager?

Reduced libido, vaginal dryness, and inability to orgasm as we get older are common problems and in most cases they can be treated by a combination of therapy, medication, aids, and of course, with the right partner.

So I do not want to give up on sex or men but you have to work on it and everything will be normal again.