Am I crazy to like a man 15 years younger than me?

Michelle writes, "I met a young man 15 years my junior about 5 years ago. We started out as friends and began seeing each other more; no commitments to one another, just that when we are together, we are together and we respect each others space. He would come to my home anytime he wanted and I to his but by choice I didn't go that often. He asked me a couple times how I felt about him; all I would say is I care a lot for him and he would say nothing but I suppose because I never asked. He would tell me many times how much he appreciates me, then a couple of months ago I told him I was moving away and then he would tell me that he loved me. He is moving closer to me in the next couple of months but not soon enough for me. I really love him and I believe in my heart that he too loves me the same way. Am I crazy?"

First of all, you are not the most unusual case that I have come across. I have heard from women who are in relationships with men who are young enough to be their grandchildren.

Trust me; yes women who are in healthy relationships with men that are 30 years younger than them.

My position on such relationships is based on a simple fact of life: our intellectual age has little to do with our chronological age. Have you ever met a 50 year old who has the same intelligence of a 12-year old? I have. There are a lot of morons out there, often even holding responsible positions everywhere. I also know recent college graduates who have the depth of grandpa and can blow your mind with their intellectual depth and knowledge. In other words, that is what you are experiencing. You like someone because he is intellectually and emotionally compatible with you, regardless of his age.

My suggestion to all such women is that they should take the plunge because they will some day regret that they rejected a man for merely his age when in reality it does not matter.

So will some people raise eyebrows looking at you two together?

Well, many will if he liked pink shirts or had facial hair or had a tattoo on his butt or wore Speedo to the beach. So I would say that for once tell him how you feel without holding back. Who knows that you two might end up having a relationship of a lifetime.

So go ahead and do it and let me know how it turns out.