How can I find the perfect man?

Courtney writes, "I'm realizing that I'm not ready to commit until I've developed a solid friendship with a man. But even though I'm being smart about dating, I guess I'm a little worried about my chances. My standards are high and I'm not going to settle, and with that realization, I'm wondering...does that man exist?"

You appear to be a strong woman and need a man who can appreciate your strengths. I know it is hard to find that perfect partner but I am a big optimist. Obviously, I am guessing that you realize that you will need to make some compromises but it still makes sense to stay firm on others that are absolutely critical to you.

I tell my readers to actually write down what is non-negotiable (e.g. education or intellect or accepting your child, etc.) and what are they willing to compromise on (e.g. height, weight, looks, etc.).

So with that being said, you will find someone that is pretty close to what you are looking for. It is only when we write things down and think about them do we realize that what seemed like a MUST (e.g. degree from Harvard) might appear inconsequential in the grand scheme of things.