How do I make sure that my boyfriends makes love to me?

Mandy writes, "I met this guy and we hit it off great. We spend time together, we've met each others families, we are the same age, and we have so much in common. My problem is now that the newness has worn off he has gotten too comfortable and the sex has slowed down. I want to keep things fresh and try something new. He seems little shy when it comes to this kind of stuff. How do I get him to open up more to me? I feel we could really have a great future together if he would let me in. Help. What do I do?"

It is almost always the case that sex does go down in any relationship once the newness is gone and a couple starts to spend more time together. Having said that, a couple can also experience a surge once they become really comfortable with each other and want to please each other even more because they are truly in love.

In your situation, with his being a bit shy and the excitement subsiding, I would say that you should be in control of sex from now on. Be the one to plan and initiate it and I am sure that he will go for the ride. Try different things and then ask him for for specific (not generic like "how was it?" but more specific "what did you think of this specific angle of penetration?") feedback.

And finally always put intimacy on the calendar the way you would put meals or grocery shopping or laundry or vacations. That way he would understand that you will have sex X times a week and the way you change your menu or outfits regularly, you will change your sexual adventures.

Trust me; a man is like a dog that needs training and once it knows that it has to get the newspaper for you every morning from the front yard, it will do it and then wag its tale to tell you how pleased it is to do it for you.