How to make the first phone call to a girl?

Rod writes, "I'm a a shy guy, 35 years old. I have not met many women because I am shy. I met a woman on an Internet dating website, and she wants me to call her after I only sent her three emails. She knows that I am shy. What can I do to feel more comfortable, so I can talk with her?"

Well, congratulations. It seems that you are definitely making progress. The good news is that she knows that you are a shy guy and so she will understand. The most difficult thing for a shy person is to carry on a conversation on the telephone.

The secret to that is to write down a few questions that you can ask her so that the conversation keeps going. For example, I am sure that you want to know more about her hobbies or a specific hobby. For instance, if she says that she likes movies, you can ask her what type of movies. And if she says comedies, you can ask about her favorite movies and if you have seen any one of them you can discuss those scenes. Or you can simply ask her to share her favorite parts from a movie in case you have not seen any one of them. This is just an example. You can apply the same to anything: travel, cooking, books, etc.

The other trick is that you also want to ask followup questions when she asks you something. It does not have to be the same question because that is not going to be fun. But let us say she wants to know your hobbies, you don't have to ask her hobbies, but you can ask if she has ever gone scuba diving (or whatever you like to do). That is a great way to talk about your passion and find out if she would like to do something together with you next time.

And finally, take a deep breath and not get stressed out. I mean after all it is just a girl on the other end who might be nervous as well. A person just like you and I. It is not rocket science talking to someone on the phone. It is like calling an airline or a bank to get something done. So relax and have fun talking to her. I think everything will go fine, but even if it does not, she will understand because she is not just testing your phone skills; she likes a lot other things about you and that is why she has taken the next step.

Good luck and let me know how it turns out.