My boyfriend does not spend time with me

Melody writes, "I met a guy about a year and a half ago, and we started dating a few months later. We have a great time when we're together, but I have to force him to spend time with me. His usual routine is to get up in the morning and within the hour he's on his way out the door. As a woman I feel like I need more than that from someone who says he loves me. He's gone all day, and he comes home with just enough time to maybe eat, then he falls asleep. He refuses to give up his apartment, no one understands why. I've got a friend who stays across the street from his place, and she and her man say that they've never seen anyone else with him over there, so I don't really suspect cheating. I tried talking to him many times, but he acts like the problem will just go away. I finally lost it the other night. He left the house with an attitude because I was not in the bed with him. I was sleeping on the couch because I was uncomfortable. I texted him and told him he forgot his things that he could take them to wherever he spends all his time. He reluctantly left. I love him, but I can be by myself whenever I want. Why should I claim having a man if he's never around?"

It is clear that you two are totally incompatible. You are warm and emotional, warm person that likes to spend quality time with your lover, but based on his behavior with you, it is obvious that he is not that type at all. As you are finding out, it is not that he is cheating or that another woman is on his mind; many men are simply not so much into hugging, cuddling, kissing, or going shopping with their girl. In other words, he is a cold man who lives in his own world where there is not a lot of place for a woman to live.

Melody, he is not the man for you and if you are with him, you will always be waiting for his attention while he will simply believe that you are just another object in his life. It is good that he is gone so now you can move on and find someone more like you.