My boyfriend only knows bam bam thank you mam lovemaking

Lisa writes, "The sex used to be great with my boyfriend but I want him to love me slowly not bam bam bam, so fast sometimes that I don't enjoy it any more. I explained to him that I wanted him to do some things different and please me, make love to me slowly and passionately. I have done all I can to talk to him and it's not working. My feelings have taken a drastic change for the worse and I am wondering if I should just throw him out of my life."

Regarding sex, he has the same issues as millions of other men do. For them sex is not about foreplay or intimacy; it is a way to release themselves and then go to sleep. These men have simply not learned to appreciate that a woman is not just a receptacle but a person with feelings.

All a girl can do in these circumstances is to request and you have done that, but I have little hope from him considering that he has not taken the time to learn lovemaking.

I am noticing that you seem like a nice, sweet, responsible girl and while this man has a few great qualities, he is not the man for you long term. What you want is a man who will not only do what he does but also make passionate love to you treating you like a woman with feelings rather than just a toy.

He will need to learn how to make love to you and you will teach him how to do it. Give him a chance to get it right in 3 months, and if you see no change, throw him out of the house.