My boyfriend still talks to his ex girlfriend

Anika writes, "My BF and have been together for 3 years. I think he may be cheating, not physically, but still. He still talks to his ex and doesn't see a problem with it. Some of the messages between them have been very suggestive. I'm afraid to confront him because I was sneaking through his phone but on the other hand he knows I don't like him talking to her and he has promised to stop. He did for a while but started up again. I just don't see why he needs to talk to her. I don't want to break up with him but I don't want to feel like I'm making him choose. I really love him and we are getting our own place. We have plans of marriage and kids but I just can't help but lay awake knowing that he rather talk to her and lie about than consider my feelings. On top of that I found a bunch of nasty text messages in the past from a different girl. I confronted him in a fight and he said it was him pretending because he knew I was going through his phone. I don't believe him but I let it go. He is very controlling and scares me. I let him get away with murder but don't want to leave him. I wake up at least 5 days a week and wishing I was with someone who deserved me. What should I do?"

Even though you say that you don't want to breakup and you love this man plus he is a controlling man, I will still say that you should seriously consider breaking up with him. Why? Your boyfriend is addicted to cheating with women and no matter what you do, he will always be messing around with other girls. And if you don't end the relationship and get married to him, you will never be in peace because every single day you will either need to keep an eye on him so that he is not messing around with another woman or lie awake wondering where he is.