How can I be sure that my hubby is cheating?

Candice writes, "I'm 21 and my husband is 39. We married after just a few months of dating. Everything was good between us. Too good if you ask me. I'm young but I know the game. I suspect that he's cheating. I asked him a few times if he was cheating and he always reacts as if I didn't ask him a serious question. Then he responds with 'Why would I ever cheat on you?' I'm just saying to myself that he is lying. I sense all the signs. Even after we have been married, he has a box of condoms in his office bag. Why does he have condoms if we have never used them before? I see no reason to have condoms, and if there should be, they should in our bedroom. I started to monitor his bag. Condoms disappeared. From that point on I kept asking him if he was cheating and that last time he got so mad he punched a hole in the wall and he started crying and saying he'll never do anything to hurt our relationship and he's never lied or cheated on me. I still don't believe him. I smell his mustache when we kiss and it got that sex scent. I smell his underwear they have the smell of semen. I don't have any more proof than that but what else do I need. I can't leave/divorce him because he takes care of me and my kids and I still love him like no other. I just don't know what to do. I do know that I don't want to leave him. He had a friend that told me why should I be mad if he's cheating but at the same time he is taking care of me and my kids. I'm like I already married young and I don't want to be married to someone that cheats. I didn't marry him so he could cheat on me. Can you help?"

Yes, I am a little concerned too about the condom situation. As a married man myself who has sex without condoms with my wife, I haven't bought condoms in over 15 years. I am not so sure about the sex scent though (I don't think there is such a thing) that you talk about or his undies smelling of semen (did you actually see any semen stains?).

In other words, you don't have definite proof that he is cheating.

Now let me ask you this: is it possible that your man is bisexual? I know a lot of men have sex with guys and do not consider it cheating because they are doing it with a man and not a woman. I also don't like that friend of his telling you how cheating is OK if he is a good provider.

Also, do not say anything to him yet and also do not think about leaving him either. Life as a single mom can be very hard and you want to be financially strong first before you leave him. In other words, it is better to wait and build a safety net of money before deciding on divorce.