How did I breakup with a mature married man?

I want to share the story from a reader who broke up with a married, older man. She writes, "It's not easy breaking up with a mature man. Such men are more confident and experienced and are relatively easy to talk to, and extremely friendly compared to men in my age group. He just said that he'll like us to be friends with no strings attached. He said that I can come see him any time and nothing will happen. I said no way. He suggested that we should meet at an eatery and talk things over. He continued to pressure me to call him if I ever wanted to and he'll not pressure me into doing anything that I did not want.

He praised my beauty and personality and how he has fallen for me due to my honesty. He kept on telling me how well we fit, how well we gel, and so on. He actually made me feel guilty, saying I am dumping him and that I owe him at least a few minutes to both sit down and talk things over, but I said NO. He said that he knows what is bothering me that it's because he is married and that I have a boyfriend. He said I should not worry since his wife is constantly traveling on business and can be gone for weeks at a time. I guess as much that he wants me to get used to the idea that I am no longer a virgin so henceforth there will be nothing stopping me again from actually having sexual intercourse with him, I do not want it this way. At least not with him."

Congratulations on being able to breakup successfully with him. What I would suggest is that from now on, you will promise me to not respond to this man if he wants to contact you again. He is a manipulator and sees you as naive and vulnerable due to your young age and lack of experience. What he is looking for is a sex partner since his wife is not with him. What will you gain at the end of this? He will go back to his wife and all he wants is someone to have sex with.

I want to emphasize that it is important for you NOT to have any more contact with him. This whole talk about being friends and no sex is just an excuse to maintain a relationship with you. It is OVER and any more contact means that you will not be able to move on.