How to breakup with a manipulative man?

Melanie writes, "I am dating a married man 20 years older than me. I was attracted to him initially because of his charm, confidence, and self esteem, but then I realized that he was not for me. I am afraid to breakup with him because he treats me like a little girl and does not listen to me as if I have no clue what I am talking about. He is a psychologist and he knows what to say and when to say it. The last time I tried to end the relationship, he pretended that I was playing a joke on him. I feel that he has been manipulating me, using me. I don't know how to make him go away from my life. Please help."

I totally understand your fears and since he is older and a psychologist he is clearly manipulating your mind. Here are a few things to do.

1. If he calls you to set up a meeting, say NO.
2. If he shows up at your door, do not open the door.
3. If you have his address, send a letter to him. Or send him an email or text message clearly saying that you are done with him and want to end the relationship.
4. If none of this is possible, and you have to meet with him to breakup, bring along a girl friend so that you do not feel alone.
5. Be calm and firm. Keep it short and simple and then just leave.