How to breakup with a married man?

Veronica writes, "I want to end an affair with a married man. Please tell me how do go about it? I have tried once but he gives all sorts of reasons why we should not end the relationship. Due to travel plans for both of us, we won't be seeing each other for two weeks, but I don't want to go back to the relationship. Please what do I do? The relationship is barely 2 months old. He is a nice person but I just don't feel it is not right to date a married man. Initially I was flattered that I have been approached by a married man which was why I gave in at first. I am wiser now but how to breakup is now the problem. Your advice is badly needed."

As I read your email, I am realizing that a part of you does not want to breakup with this man, and that is why you are having difficulty telling him to go away. So the first thing that you have to do is to tell your mind to stop listening to the heart. Convince yourself what you tell me. You have a boyfriend and it is not right for you to cheat on him if your relationship is otherwise good. Plus, relationship with a married man is generally one-sided (he can walk away any time to his wife and family and you would have lost many years finding a man who is not available, and thus, robbing you of the opportunity to develop a solid relationship with a single man). He gets all the benefits and unless you are getting expensive gifts, money, or awesome sex, you get nothing.

Based on above, the last thing he wants to do is to breakup with you. And if you sound tentative and hesitant, he will exploit. However, if you truly believe it and want to do it, you can breakup with him.

I know breaking up is not easy, and even more difficult if the other partner has done nothing wrong. Plus, looking into the eyes of the person and tell him to get lost is not easy to do. In such cases, the best thing to do is to breakup by email, considering that your relationship is just two months old. Write down a brief email telling him that you have a boyfriend and it is not right for you to cheat on him. You have realized your mistake and want to end the relationship immediately with him. If he has his things in your house, put them in a box and mail it to him. Tell him not to call you or show up at your house. DO NOT agree to meet to say goodbyes or talk about it. Now that you have decided to end the relationship, there is nothing to talk about. Maybe he will cry and beg, but trust me, he will be alright. He will either be happy with his wife or will find another girl like you.