I caught my wife cheating
Rod writes, "My wife and I have been together for over 15 years and married 10 years. She seemed to be good wife but all of a sudden I found numerous phone calls from different guys. I noticed she didn't want to have sex with me as often as we used to; that's what prompted me to go through her phone bill. She cheated but will not admit it. She is trying to do better but the thing that is getting me is that she will not call me or converse with me much. Is she embarrassed and doesn't wanna talk or do you think she wanna leave me. She attends church every Sunday. We occasionally make love too."
When a woman is calling numerous men and is not having sex with her husband, something seriously wrong has happened to the relationship. In other words, it is not something that just happened overnight; things must have gone downhill for a while.
Merely calling men that you don't know is not definite proof that she has cheated. Of course it depends on what you define as cheating and personally I see no reason for my wife to call men that I don't know or she may be reluctant to introduce to me and invite home for dinner. Maybe she has been very lonely and is chatting with men to fill that gap.
She is obviously embarrassed and in any case, has had problems in her relationship with you. Now that her secret is out, she is in a very difficult spot.
She cannot admit her fault but she cannot act as if nothing has happened.
At this point, if you want to save this marriage, ask for help from a pastor, family member, marriage counselor, close friend, or anyone who both of you respect and who can act as a mediator. It will be nice to talk all your grievances out, figure out a way to resolve them, and try to move on.
While I don't always believe that regularly churchgoing means much, but if she is truly religious, she might not be thrilled by the idea of leaving you.
In the meantime, do not antagonize or ridicule her or make her feel terrible for what she did. Try to be understanding and patient. Hopefully, you two can work through this and save your marriage.
When a woman is calling numerous men and is not having sex with her husband, something seriously wrong has happened to the relationship. In other words, it is not something that just happened overnight; things must have gone downhill for a while.
Merely calling men that you don't know is not definite proof that she has cheated. Of course it depends on what you define as cheating and personally I see no reason for my wife to call men that I don't know or she may be reluctant to introduce to me and invite home for dinner. Maybe she has been very lonely and is chatting with men to fill that gap.
She is obviously embarrassed and in any case, has had problems in her relationship with you. Now that her secret is out, she is in a very difficult spot.
She cannot admit her fault but she cannot act as if nothing has happened.
At this point, if you want to save this marriage, ask for help from a pastor, family member, marriage counselor, close friend, or anyone who both of you respect and who can act as a mediator. It will be nice to talk all your grievances out, figure out a way to resolve them, and try to move on.
While I don't always believe that regularly churchgoing means much, but if she is truly religious, she might not be thrilled by the idea of leaving you.
In the meantime, do not antagonize or ridicule her or make her feel terrible for what she did. Try to be understanding and patient. Hopefully, you two can work through this and save your marriage.
Labels: adultery, cheat, counseling, couples, marriage
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