I still have a crush on my highschool boyfrined

Veronica writes, "I was just wondering if you could help me out. In highschool I had the biggest crush on this guy and I continue to this day. I will still do anything for him no matter what it is even though I'm with my boyfriend of three years (who by the way often mistreats me). I ran into him two years ago when he came to visit and I felt like I was in high school again. All these feelings from the past came back. Even though we can't be together (he is also in a serious relationship) I would rather have him in my life somehow. I really him love almost the same, if not more, then I love my BF. I am torn. I have been in love with him for 6 years now. I refuse to let him go. He says he feels the same way. I just want some advice please on what to do next and how to proceed forward."

As you know very well, I am not a big fan of a man if he mistreats you.

Based on what you tell me, I am not 100% sure that this new man is completely devoted to you at this point and would want you as a girlfriend (it is not easy to simply walk away from a steady girlfriend when you run into your high school crush). Having said, that when he sees you with another man he is probably holding back his feelings for you.

I would suggest that you pack your bags and go spend some time with your newly found love. See where he is at and if he feels as strongly about you as you do and if you two can have a future together. Do not go with the intention of moving in with him but definitely you two need to figure out if you both want the same things, and if so, how to make it happen. Just tell your current boyfriend that you are going to see some girl friend from college