My long distance boyfriend has stopped contacting me

Lacie writes, "I'm in 7 year-old relationship. We are generally a happy couple. I can say it's perfect. Last year, however, I came to work overseas. For the first year I was away, everything was okay. We still had good communication. Starting this year he seldom contacts me (email, IM, text message, or phone call). He's not affectionate any more. He cannot even say he loves me which he used to tell me before very frequently. Is he sending me a message that he wants to end the relationship?"

I am assuming that you are not yet married.

Based on what you are telling me, as you can understand, long distance relationships are very difficult for both partners. I was in one for two years and while eventually we got married, it was a difficult two years for both of us. Things that can be resolved in one minute when a couple is physically together, explode into something huge when you are hundreds of miles apart.

Unless there is something else (like a job loss or death in the family or medical problem that could put him into low spirits) I am suspecting that he has found another woman and by cutting off communication with you, he is hinting that he wants to breakup with you. I think you need to ask that question to him right away so that you can know for sure what is going on. If there is some misunderstanding, you need to visit him and spend some time with him to make sure that you two still have feelings for each other.