My married boyfriend is broke

Megan writes, "I am seeing a married man for the past year now, so far every thing has been good until he ran out of money and went back home to his wife. We were staying at a motel for 3 months, so, he had to go back home. He says nothing is going on with him and his wife for the last 3 years. He got a settlement; I was with him when he received it. Also I have seen bank statements. I am not at the motel anymore, I'm living in my car, and I am a widow. We met at a barbecue; he told me she did him wrong by keeping personal stuff from him until a family member of hers told him about the situation. He bought me a car with some of the settlement money. He tells me he loves me every day. I have even been in his house. Just wanna know if he's being honest with me. It was his choice for the relationship. Yeah, I knew he was married, even some of her people have seen us out together, but no one has said anything to her. What do you think?

I have heard from several women in your situation recently. Did he say anything about coming back? Do you have a place to go?

The whole thing is very weird. Do you really think he ran out of money? I can understand that his marriage is broken and he has not had sex with her for a long time (by the way, this is also a common excuse by married men in manipulating women like you in letting them have sex with them) but why would he go back to her?

It is not a lot of fun when you have no money and date a man who is also broke. I would suggest that you be very careful. I think he may be telling the truth but people without money are often very desperate and can fuzz the truth to get what they want.

What good is to be with this man who has no money, is married, and has gone back to his wife out of desperation?

You have a lot of thinking to do about him. Love without money is very hard -- trust me. I know it from hearing some very sad stories.