What to do about a man who still loves his ex girlfriend?

Kristen writes, "I just read the article about a man keeping in touch with his ex-girlfriends. I felt like I was reading my own words because that is exactly my situation. I have been struggling and trying to cope with the fact that my boyfriend continues to talk to the ex-girlfriend that he cheated on me with and left me for. I don't buy the 'we're just friends' speech. Isn't that how it all starts? I hate it! When does it stop? God is the only one who knows my thoughts and got me through all of it. I'm fighting hard and I feel like I'm better off alone or with somebody who wants to be with just one woman."

I agree with you that any time a man uses that 'she is just a friend' line, he is merely trying to find a cover for his extramarital relationship.

As I keep telling all women in your situation, if this man has not gotten over his ex, he is not that into you -- in other words, let him be with who he wants to be, that is his ex, and you should be with someone -- as you said -- who wants to be with just one woman. I also agree with you that it is better being single than to constantly worry if your man is with one of his exes.