Why not to fall for a man already in a relationship?

Carol writes, "A high school crush that I thought was ready to be my husband, he just called me a fatal attraction when he came to visit last weekend. We hung out and he told me that he loved me and was happy that I still had such strong feelings for him after all this time. He also told me he kinda has a GF. I was thinking of spending some time with him to figure out if we could revive our relationship, he told me that if I go visit him I gotta pretend to be his cousin. I am so hurt. God I'm so stupid; that's what I get for loving a man. I'm gonna tell the guy that I don't want him in my life any more. I can't hold on to him or my feelings for its pointless. I do love my current BF, we are happy, we gonna get married, have kids and be happy. I can't keep hoping that he will want me. I have somebody who does want me and cares for and wants me to be happy. Yes, we have issues and he has a little temper but so what? I don't care. I love him and that's all it takes."

That is perfect. It is nice to have clarity in your mind and be prepared to face the consequences. After all, who does not take risks and face the music later on. I admire your courage to take this decision because it turns out that highschool crush is basically NOT AVAILABLE to you -- he is already taken.

Expecting him to leave his GF and accept you in his life is asking for too much.