How to my really old boyfriend happy?

Stacy writes, "I am a 22 year old female who has been through enough to be in my 30's. In short, I dropped out of high school, got into drugs really bad, had a relationship with an older man (15 years older), stayed with him for 4 years bouncing on and off drugs until I got pregnant. We had a beautiful son, split up because as a sober couple, we weren't the same people. I moved back towards my family and have built quite the beautiful life for myself. Things were really rough for me a few months back - because of the split, parenting plan with my son's father, unemployed and alone, so I decided to reach out in a way that I never have before. I got onto Craig's List and put an ad in stating that I needed a live-in house-keeper/caregiver situation, whatever the case, for a place to live. I got a response back not 12 hours later and it was a 64 year old man who was lonely and needed someone to take care of the house. I was really hesitant to jump into the situation because of my son but I took the risk and it couldn't have turned out better. I fell in love with my boss and he with me -- despite our age difference. Everything between us is simple and easy. He makes me happy and I do the same. I have never been loved 'right' before and I haven't been this happy in a long time. But I want to make sure that I am making him happy. He says I am but I want to make sure because he takes such good care of me and my son that I don't want him to feel like he is not appreciated. How do I do that and ensure that our relationship stays as solid as it is now? It means too much to me to lose."

Future of relationship with an older man

Wow, this is such a beautiful story and it made my day. When I get such happy stories to read, I love my job.

I am glad that you are happy and so is your boyfriend. Looks as if you are doing everything right because things seem to be going well.

I also admire your decision to be proactive and trying to do your best. Generally I like to believe that if there is something that he needs or realizes that you are not doing it, he will ask you. But not all men are very communicative, it does not hurt to ask. No one can tell you what he wants than him and the best thing is to do is just ask directly. Trust me, it works.

A man at any age has very simple needs but sex is a big part of it. I have never met a man who was not happy if he was getting sex the way he liked it. May sound a little shallow to some women, but women who appreciate this often have the most satisfying and happy relationships.

You also need to start thinking about making the relationship somewhat more legal. Remember that if you do not get married, you may not inherit anything if something were to happen to him. And considering your situation that can be a huge problem. I say this because while you are with this man, you are missing out on opportunities to meet and marry another man with whom you can spend your life with. So hopefully you are already thinking along these lines; if not, it is a good idea to do so in the coming months. I can understand how blessed you feel to have a stable relationship and some peace in your life after all that you have gone through, but also consider your long-term future. I am sure that if he loves you the way you do, he will also be pleased with this approach.