My low self esteem is destroying my relationship

Courtney writes, "I have been in and out of relationships for some time. I am now in a relationship where I actually really like this guy but my insecurities and low self-esteem is ruining our relationship. I did tell him before we started to date that I am very sensitive and take everything to heart and that it doesn't take much to make me upset. I have been trying to change my ways but I need help. He and I had a talked this morning through texting and we almost broke up because he doesn't know how to deal with my insecurities where I am sad and not a pleasant girlfriend to talk to. It hurts, when I have to sit and explain how I feel and get nothing in return. Before we almost ended it, he said that "I like you and I want to stay together to at least try and work on our relationship." We are new in the relationship so any type of advice would be wonderful."

I totally understand how lack of confidence and self esteem can make it harder for you to have a proper relationship. Yep, the girl asks, "Does my butt look too big in these jeans," and if the poor guy says either a Yes or No, he is in trouble either way with someone who has low self esteem. Even a praise can be misconstrued by such a woman as mockery or ridicule or criticism.

I am glad that your boyfriend is supportive and understanding, but not all men are like him, and even his patience may not be infinite.

In other words, you will need to work on these issues (preferably with a life coach) and deal with them head on. He might only bear with you for a while but you need to resolve them on your own. During this period, do not judge him because it is not him, it is you who is drawing the wrong conclusion. If he is not looking at you and looking at a woman passing by, do not assume that it is because you are ugly and the other girl is hot. You get the idea.

Raising your self esteem and getting rid of your insecurities is something that takes time and if you wish I will be glad to help you in that area. If you want to get help from me, sit down quietly, and write down a list of all the things that you hate about your body, your life, and your world, and then email it to me.