How can I trust my cheater boyfriend again?

Carol writes, "My boyfriend and I have been together 4 months. Everything was fine in the beginning. Then around a month ago, he started acting funny, ignoring me, starting arguments for no reason. Then I found out he cheated on me. I forgave him quickly but now I'm having a hard time trusting him. We are both getting sick of each other but we are in love and neither of us wants to let go of the relationship. We want to work it out, but we have no idea where to start and I don't want us to continue feeling this way. What steps should I take to fix this? What can we do to fix our love life? I need help ASAP before we lose each other."

Troubles in a relationship happen for a reason

Are you sure that you are in such deep love considering that you have been together for just 4 months? I am not suggesting that your love is not serious but it seems difficult to believe. Plus, in that short period of time he has already cheated once. The reason I am pointing out these issues is that maybe you need to think hard if this is the man for you. It is a very short relationship, you do not trust him already, and you are already sick of each other. This is not a good start.

How to patch things in a relationship?

If you still decide that this is the man for you, the best place to start is go to a quite place for a weekend (a place where there are no distractions of sightseeing). I want you to talk. Be prepared for talking. In a notebook, write down everything that you want to tell him and all the questions that you have. Remember that you both should not interrupt when other person is talking, never raise your voice, and answer all questions honestly. If you two follow simple ground rules like that, you can have an honest communication to find out if you two should try to work this out and then set up some rules for the future.