How do I deal with a heartbreak?

Jill writes, "After my boyfriend dumped me because his parents did not like him dating me, I am so heartbroken and confused; a part of me still wants him and the other part of me is telling me that I should really get over him even though I love him and I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know we broke up and got back together and broke up again as he didn't show me no love so I'm battling with my feelings here and it hurts most of the time even though eventually I will heal and be alright like I have never been before but currently I'm really dying. I miss that warmth of his touch and his sweet loving and the way that he made me feel so supernatural. I mean he made me feel so whole and it's hard to get over him even after what he did to me and telling me that he used me, which of course, is still painful on the inside. How do I stop feeling sorry for myself and start feeling normal again?"

Dealing with a heartbreak

You are definitely experiencing heartbreak and it is natural. I think it is OK to go through the grieving because it helps. If you feel like crying, please do it. It will help your pain.

Clearly this guy was an awesome lover but a bad man. I mean he should never be allowed to fall in love with a woman or marry one because in the end his life is dictated by his mother and not by him. He is not a man; he is a sissy and they make terrible husbands.

I don't know what you want at this point. A husband or a great lover? I know you are still very young and it is fine to "play" with the boys. In that case, go right ahead and if he is using you, you can use him too and have a good time, but if you want a real man that will stand by you and eventually marry you and build a life together, then it is best to just cherish those sweet memories and move on.

I see each breakup as an opportunity to learn and get better. You have definitely learned about men and relationships after being with him and in your next relationship you will be much wiser and careful.

Is it possible for you to take some time off to travel to some place?