Is my boyfriend interested in my money or me?

Donna writes, "I have a wonderful, budding relationship with a man much younger man than myself. I have dated younger men before and I find them much easier to be with, much more spontaneous, fun, caring and attentive. While I sometimes question why such younger men would be interested in a much older woman, in this case, the man seems sincere. The only concern that I have is that this loving attention is motivated more out of the financial means I have that a younger man has yet to have achieved. How do you know that it's you that they are interested in and not your bank account?"

Does my boyfriend love me for my money?

Actually this is something I always point out to older women when they find overzealous young men willing to be their slaves in the name of love. The other warning I give is to watch out for men with fetish for mature women that somehow they are more skilled in bed or desperate for sex or more grateful that a young man wants to be intimate with them.

My suggestion to you would be to assess his financial situation and what he wants to do in the future. If a poor man is always eager to suggest expensive products to buy and exotic vacation destinations, I would see that as a warning sign. A man that genuine loves you will be more interested in you as a person, spending quality time with you (which one can do at home drinking a glass of wine and not necessarily in St. Barths) and will be reluctant to accept any gift that he couldn't reciprocate (while not in an exact situation, I am always reluctant to accept a gift from any friend or family member that I could not reciprocate, regardless of how rich my friend or family member is).